Exploring Uranus 🚀 PART 2
OF COURSE I’m talking about YOUR ANUS, not the planet!!
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Elated to continue this fantASStic conversation with you!
Finding your anal pleasure
It can be really helpful to understand the anatomy of the anus, so explore and play from a well informed place.
At the anal opening, there are two sphincter muscles. The outer one is controlled by will and the inner one is not controlled by will but reacts with reflex contraction from pressure. After an automatic contraction, the inner sphincter muscle relaxes again, so any object (poo, finger, penis, toy) can enter or exit.
Inside the anal opening and the sphincter muscles, you find your rectum. It’s about 15 cm long and lean backwards. Where the rectum ends there’s another sphincter muscle, and behind that, there’s the colon.
The recutm usually doesn't have poo sitting in it unless when you feel you have to go to the toilet. However, depending on your bowel movements, there can be some poo even after you’ve been to the toilet.
Different ways to pleasure the anus
If you’re a newbie, please remember that a pinkie finger tip can feel like PLENTY. It’s super important to gradually increase the size of any item you insert.
Try this step-by-step process to gain confidence with anal penetration:
1. Inserting an item (finger, toy, penis) until the reflex muscle contracts
2. Stop, breath, consciously, relax
3. Push/yawn open the asshole
4. Move the penetration either deeper or more shallow
5. REPEAT ALL THE STEPS ABOVE
Play and explore with all these different types of stimulation:
Penetrating in/out
 at different depths and pace
Stretching the anus gently

Pulsating stimulation
Licking/rimming

Inside the wall between pussy/ass there’s erectile tissue – stimulating that specifically
Stimulating the prostate (you can locate the prostate both from the outside and inside, and from inside the anal canal feels like a fleshy bulb of tissue on the front wall of the rectal lining. It’ll feel different from the other tissue in there.
Deeper anal canal – in the female body you can stimulate the a-spot and cervix from the ass (you can have cervical orgasms from anal sex!!)

Finger movements to try:
Come hither. Gently insert your lubed index finger into the anus and curl your finger upward in a “come hither” motion toward the belly button. Keep repeating the motion while gradually increasing your speed as the pleasure builds.
Doorbell. Rest the pad of your finger against the outside of the prostate and gently press as you would to ring a doorbell. Mix it up by using different pressure or holding the press for shorter and longer intervals to find what works. You can use the doorbell technique when penetrating the anus, too.
Circling. Use the pad of your finger and run it all around the prostate, circling your way around the entire perimeter of the gland. Change up the pressure and speed and continue with the combo that feels best, allowing the pleasure to build up
You can play with finding pleasurable sensations in the reflex contractions of the sphincter muscles! It’s like a pleasurable surge of energy that bursts through your asshole and body when the sphincter contracts. BUT, make sure it doesn’t hurt.
In the very beginning, it might feel a little uncomfortable or hurt just a little, but it should never hurt a lot.
Be a try-sexual and try it all! See what works for you. And remember, it’s a gradual process.
Journal/reflect
A mental block around anal sex can keep from exploring and enjoying the wonders of ass pleasure.
So it’s not a bad idea to do some journaling on the following topics:
How do you feel about your asshole?
How well (or not) do you know your anus/asshole?
What feelings arise when you insert something inside your asshole / think about inserting something inside your asshole?
What is the dominant relationship you have with your asshole –mechanical, functional, sexual, non-existent etc
How would you describe your asshole?
Get clear on these things and the from there, you can CHOOSE how you want to feel about your ass, how you want to sexualize it and make it a beautiful, erotic, sacred etc part of your sexuality.
Practical stuff
PREP/HYGIENE:
To make anal sex as hygienic as possible, wash your anus externally with warm water and soap and then your hands as well. You don’t want to add soap internally, as the mucus membrane is sensitive and soap can cause irritation and a ph-imbalance.
To avoid any mess during anal sex, you want to have emptied your bowels successfully fairly recently. There should only be stool in your rectum (the part where you play) when you need to go to the toilet, so if you have done that, then there shouldn’t be a mess.
But, there are never any guarantees, so if there’s a little bit of poo on your partner or toy, laugh about it, wipe it off and continue playing.
You can also do an anal douche or enema, but this is only recommended if you don’t have good bowel moments or you are going to have really deep anal sex and shouldn’t be done regularly as this also can affect the tissue and ph-balance.
LUBE:
I can’t stress this enough – it’s SO important to be very liberal with lube. Pure silicone lube or any body friendly oil of your preference. I recommend avoiding water based lube because they tend to get very sticky which can cause unpleasurable friction. I also recommend staying the fuck away from numbing lubes, the whole point is to FEEL.
ASS TO…
Pussy – Avoid ass to pussy, unless you know you have a very clean rectum. Bacteria from the asshole can cause vaginal infections.
Mouth – Up to you! Minimal risk for infection, same system just two different ends.
Exploration 101
So to summarize…
Use LOTS of lube. LOTS
Gently stretch and relax your asshole
Remember that the sphincter muscle must relax – otherwise it will hurt
NEVER penetrate against contracted muscles - PAIN
There are two muscles at the anal opening - one voluntary, one involuntary reflex - play with pleasure here
Insert, stop, relax, push/yawn open
Gradual increase of size and depth
Use toys to support your pleasure play
Have fun!
Hope you enjoyed this two-part series!
Love,
Erika
