The Goddess Area aka the G-spot
YAY! I’m excited to take you on a journey through the orgasmic landscape of women.
First up is the GODDESS AREA also known as the
G-spot.
Is it a myth?!
No.
It exists. Period.
However, there’s still a lot of debate in the research field as to just what the G-spot is, and how it can produce orgasm. Just the other day I read a post on IG where someone said the G-spot had been debunked.
Clearly they haven’t had a g-spot orgasm. #justsaying
“In our research, we first established that the Gräfenberg spot was a “sexologic” reality, that is, a concept that many women found useful to describe their personal experiences. The second research question concerned the underlying anatomic reality for this experience. Skene's glands, the paraurethral glands, which have often been called the “female prostate” throughout history, emerged as the anatomic basis for the experiences of these women (see Zaviacic,4 1999, more than 250 references).” Whipple & Perry
The G-spot got its name in the 1980s when the concept -- an erogenous zone that, when stimulated, can lead to powerful orgasm, gained in popularity. It was initially named after Ernst Gräfenberg, a German physician, who wrote about its existence in the 1950s.
Beverly Whipple, a US nurse and sex researcher, “located” the G-spot when women complained about leaking fluid, which they thought was urine, during sex. Seeking to validate their experiences, Whipple researched medical literature and found an article Ernest Gräfenberg published in 1950, reporting the evidence of female ejaculation and an erogenous zone on the anterior wall of the vagina.
It was Whipple that made the G-spot “famous” in the West.
Okay, so now that we have established this and know some of the history… let’s explore it further.
Explanation
The G-spot is not a single, distinct entity. It’s not a SPOT, it’s an area.
The G-spot is located in the clitourethrovaginal complex – the area where the clitoris, urethra and vagina all meet up. There are several structures in this complex that could produce pleasurable sensations when stimulated – the G-spot might reflect the stimulation of just one structure, or multiple structures at once.
Two structures in particular have been hotly debated and stand out as likely candidates for producing G-spot orgasms: the female prostate and the clitoris.
The G-area is part of the clitoral network. This means that when you’re stimulating the G-area, you’re actually stimulating part of the internal clitoris.
The female prostate lies within the urethral sponge, a cushion of tissue surrounding the urethra. The urethral sponge and female prostate are highly innervated, which may explain their sensitivity when stimulated.
So in short, the g-area is the female prostate and its surrounding erectile tissue.
Ejaculation – is it pee?
It's not pee. Or at least, the majority of it is not pee.
Sure, if you have a bladder full of urine and you ejaculate, some pee will mix with the ejaculation. But the ejaculation itself is not pee. The reason we think it's urine is because ejaculate comes out of the urethra the same as urine does.
Ejaculate comes from an aroused and swollen prostate gland, which is what you're feeling when you touch your "G-Area".
When ejaculate comes out it may "feel" like urine, but it isn't.
If you want to test, use a white or light colored towel underneath you when you have sex. When you ejaculate, you'll notice there's no yellow stain or persistent smell. In fact, it smells and tastes kinda sweet.
If you’ve ever tasted or smelled ejaculate, you know for sure that it’s not pee.
What about the orgasm?
Again, there’s a lot of debate about the g-spot orgasm. Some say it doesn’t exist.
It’s so important to know that orgasms in this different locations in the body feel DIFFERENT.
A g-spot orgasm doesn’t feel like a clitoral orgasm. If you’re looking for a clitoral orgasm experience in the g-spot, you’ll miss the g-spot orgasm.
Orgasm and ejaculation are cultural experiences as well as biological experiences. What that means is unless your culture teaches you about either, you're less inclined to experience or understand them.
A G-area orgasm+ejaculation is a massive portal to release emotions, tension and whatever is keeping you small, held at the cellular level.
You feel SO powerful and surrendered and like you really LET GO when you ejaculate.
What’s strength got to do with it? & Why explore G-area pleasure?
What’s strength got to do with it?
When you vaginal muscles are underdeveloped or not mind/body connected - the ejaculate will shoot into your bladder OR just stay in the tissue (LOTS of pee after sex)
So in order to have amazing g-area orgasms and ejaculation, you need to develop your muscles dexterity and control – so you can relax AND push down and out.
In the beginning when you teach yourself how to squirt, you will have to exaggerate it a little, but then it will feel like it happens automatically, like you can just relax into the experience.
Some women/pussies just squirt automatically (and due to misinformation and societal ignorance, many have felt so much shame - no more!!)
Why explore G-area pleasure?
It’s so empowering to get to know your body!!
And g-area pleasure and stimulation can:
Be a portal to deep surrender
Give you mind-altering and/or sacred sexual experiences
Lead to G-spot orgasms and ejaculatory orgasms/flow
Pretty amazing!
So, how to stimulate the g-area?
First of all - locate it inside your vaginal canal.
The G-spot is located on the anterior wall of the vagina, Anywhere from 3-8cm above the opening to the vagina.
It is easiest to locate if you lie on your back and has someone else insert one or two fingers into the vagina with the palm up. Using a “come here” motion, the tissue surrounding the urethra, called the urethral sponge, will begin to swell.
This swelling area is the G-spot.
It feels like a walnut or like the roof of your mouth.
At first, this touch may make you feel as though you need to pee, but after a few seconds may turn into a pleasurable sensation. For some, however, this stimulation remains uncomfortable, no matter how long the stimulation continues.
IN THIS CASE – doing deeper emotional healing and de-armoring work is essential to unlock your pleasure!
Always make sure you are aroused enough before you play with your G-spot/area, otherwise, it might feel less pleasurable. If you’re not aroused, the tissue won’t swell and it won’t feel great.
Stimulate with deep, rhythmic pressure or do circles around it.
If it’s hard to reach, use a dildo to make it easier. A toy made of a hard material, like glass for example, helps with body/mind feedback. Or, ask for help from an excited partner!
Use blended pleasure to enhance pleasure in G-spot (touching your clitoris at the same as your stroke your G-spot)
Orgasm sensation and location
The stimulation feels like an Intense build-up of pleasure and energy in the area, followed by an experience of release and surrender.
Orgasm can include ejaculation but doesn’t have to! It’s also possible to ejaculate without a strong orgasmic sensation.
The orgasm can be located at and around the G-area but also include full-bodied sensations.
Again, it DOES NOT feel like a clitoral orgasm.
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I hope this was a pleasurable and interesting read for you, and that this information expanded your understanding of the female body and its orgasmic capacity.
It’s so empowering to know how your body works, and as a woman, not expect your body to work and respond like a male body.
Whipple has done SO much important academic work and studies for women, sex and orgasms. For example, through her academic research and studies she’s confirmed that fantasy orgasms are real and that people with spinal injuries can have orgasms. She’s a legend!
So I’ll end this blog post with a quote from her:
“Most researchers were men and were fitting women into the male model. They’d say, ‘This is how men respond, so this is how women should respond.’ We have found that is not correct. Women respond in many different ways.”
BOOM!
With Love,
Erika
